When I received the phone call from my Sister-in-law that she and my brother were coming for a visit, that would overlap my parent's one week visit by two days, and not quite sure when they would leave, oh and they would be bringing their three dogs...panic crept in. My relationship with my oldest brother was strained, at best, growing up. He, five years my senior took it upon himself to "toughen me up".  Then, shortly after he left for the Marine Corp, he brings home this perky little bundle of 5 foot nothing female and my entire family swoons. I was 15, sweet was not the first word you would reach for when describing my personality and in bounces this pretty, happy, sweet 18-year-old. I think she may have even been a cheerleader in her day.  My parents were thrilled, I was not.  Within a year, he was home and they were off to start their life together. As my hormones cooled I could finally see through the green haze of my jealousy and see what everyone else loved about her, it wasn't long before I was swooning too. As the years passed, I moved to Colorado, they were busy raising two of the cutest kids ever so we didn't see much of each other.  We would get together for dinner when I was home and he came to visit once while I was living in the mountains. This visit sounded like it was going to be the most amount of time we had spent in each others company since he left for boot camp in 1983.  YIKES!  The thing that I somehow missed is that while I was growing up, he did too.  When I hear someones name that I have not seen in say, 20 years, I tend to forget that they have probably changed too.  Maturity and life experiences force us to grow, the world does not allow us to be as self-absorbed as we are in those teen years.  My brother was no different he has grown into an amazing man who I respect and really like. He is thoughtful, caring and pretty darn funny. At the end of what turned out to be a two-week visit, I was sad to see my brother and his wife pull out of our driveway. So, bother and sis, anytime you want to come back, our door is always open.